Alek turned 18 on the road, at Christmas, in Thailand, between an island and a longevity clinic. There was no ceremony. There rarely is.
He did not want to be in front of a camera when we set out, and I do not think he much wanted to be behind one either. So I gave him the job outright: he would be the main videographer, not me. He learned it off tutorials, in hotel rooms, between stops, and he was already good by Hong Kong. By the end of the year he was better with a camera than I will ever be, and a better photographer than either of us had expected. I would like to publish his pictures in a book one day.
Then came the stages. Shanghai, December 2023, the TimePie conference: he came up with me and said a couple of minutes’ worth about who he was and what we were doing. When my talk finished, the queue that formed was not for me. It was for him. Something changed in that room and it never changed back. Singapore, February 2024, the National University: a full house and thousands more watching online, and my son telling them for five minutes what we were doing and why. Copenhagen in August, at 18, on the ARDD stage beside me for the whole session. Warsaw in September, his first national television interview, and he was better at it than I was.
He is 19 now, studying in Amsterdam, living his own life, and it is his voice that carries the film. If you want to know what a rite of passage looks like when nobody holds a ceremony for it: it is a boy who did not want to be filmed in August deciding, by December, that he had something to say.
Three words for who he is now. Courage. Inspiration. Love.